Whoa, did you just feel that? There’s definitely a shift in the atmosphere. Don’t be alarmed. Yours truly, has ascended into her 40’s. This year has been full of shifts and transitions for me. As I enter my 40th year of life, I have been in an active state of reflection. I’ve composed a list of my thoughts on turning 40.
- Enjoy Life…NOW
Sometime we think “I’ll be happy once I achieve X”, but what if you never achieve X? I used to think hitting certain milestones in my business would give me this overwhelming sense of accomplishment, many times the goal attainment felt anticlimactic. What am I saying? Don’t prolong your happiness!
You never know what life has in store for you. Don’t let social media trick you into believing that you don’t have your life together –or- that you can’t be happy until you have X amount of money in the bank. You should plan for the future, but all you really have is now. Do your best to be happy in this very moment.
- Take Care Of Yourself, There’s Life Outside of Work and Business
The saying “You get what you work for is true”. A great work ethic and strategy will take you far. Just don’t forget that you must work on your personal relationships too. I once read a story about a man who did a fine job of creating a lavish lifestyle for his family, only to be diagnosed with a life threatening disease. Through all of his years of relentless work, he ostracized his wife and kids. He died rich miserable and alone. What’s the doggone point in that? In this life of grind and hustle, make time for fun. Most importantly, make time for YOU! Here’s the drill “Moisturize your edges, drink your water, eat your veggies, workout, get massages, visit the doctor, see a therapist if you are struggling, and spend time with your loved ones”.
- You Can Succeed At Anything With Consistency
This may seem like a novel concept, but if more people understood the profound truth of this, we each would be better off. The first step in accomplishing what you want is by taking action. Once you take one step, do something towards that goal daily. You might be shaky at first, but you have no choice but to improve if you are committed. If you’ve been wanting to start a business or new hobby, START NOW. You’ll be surprised about the opportunities that have come your way within the next year or two. No amount of knowledge that you learn from a coaching program or class will surpass the success you achieve by consistent action AKA execution.
- Relationships Are A High Form Of Currency
You can only go but so far on your own. Extend your network so that you can gain wisdom and access to opportunities that you would’ve otherwise been clueless about. You’ll find that the tasks, which you find seemingly impossible for you, are very same things that someone else can make happen with the snap of a finger. In order to build powerful relationships, you’ll likely need to travel beyond your zip code, attend conferences, and participate in industry events. You have to go where the movers and shakers are. Introduce yourself and proceed to nurture worthwhile relationships. On a continual basis, you should be taking inventory of inauthentic relationships. Not only do you need to establish new relationships, but you’ll also need to prune unfruitful connections, which no longer serve you. One key thing to remember about relationships is “In order to have friends, one must first be a friend”. Be sure that you are treating others the way you’d want to be treated.
- Strengthen Your Faith
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6-8
The bible tells us over and over again to be courageous and directs us to triumph over fear. I believe that in order to truly experience happiness one must participate in service that feels purposeful. The notion of living out your purpose initially may feel vast, illusive, and even daunting when you are starting from scratch. The thing is, you have to take just ONE step. Take the first step and then one more after that. You don’t need to have everything figured out. Everything in your life doesn’t have to be perfect in order for you to do something new, start a business, or live out your purpose, but you must START! In all of my years of coaching, this has been the largest hurdle that I’ve noticed about people. We OVERTHINK the starting phase. This is where faith comes in. You have to be courageous about making new moves. How else will you experience something different if you never perform differently? By acting out of faith and obedience we open the door for God to shine his Glory through our lives. Faith is an action and so is prayer. For a while I’ve had the action part down to a “T”, but recently I realized the need to increase my prayer life. I’ve been arming myself with great warfare weapons like the book, “Fervent”. It’s a must read if you haven’t previously read it.
These are just a few of my reflections on turning 40. Of course I have many more thoughts to share, but this a great start. I remember a time when I thought 40 was old, but Babyee, today I realize that this young thang is just now getting started!
Thanks for Reading!